Healthy relationships with parents require being open and honest with each other, and being able to trust and listen to each other’s opinions. Good relationships allows kids to live comfortably and have a happier life.
Eighth grader Zoe-Ann Yamamoto said, “I do keep a good relationship with my parents because they do a lot for me. I am really thankful for having them in my life, and they are very important to me.
“I try to tell them everything. I tell them a lot about my grades and say what’s on my mind. I think it’s hard for me to hide things because I am so open with them and I am really close to my parents. I was closer to them when I was younger but still try to stay close to them,” said Yamamoto.
Due to social pressures, insecurities or the desire to be more independent, many teens hide their feelings from their parents and only give information when asked.
Many are also afraid to let parents know what is going on because they are afraid of parents’ reactions.
Eighth grader Kaitlin Lau said, “It’s good to have a healthy relationship because my parents are the only people that will be with me no matter what, but I don’t always tell my parents everything because they can take what I say the wrong way. Sometimes I talk openly with them but it’s hard when I feel they will criticize me. It’s hard to hide things but sometimes it makes situations easier.”
Being able to trust and be open with parents helps in the long run because there will always be someone to help in time of need.
Counselor Lisa Vega said, “It’s good for kids to keep a healthy relationship with their parents for trust and safety purposes. When they trust you now, they will trust you in the future and be more lenient. It is so that both sides will understand each other. By keeping a good relationship with parents, kids will be seen as more responsible.
“However, kids should also see it from parents’ point of view. They should understand that their parents were once teenagers as well and that they know what they are talking about.
“It is good to keep open communication with both parents, especially if parents are divorced. That way, their child gets opinions from both sides,” said Vega.
Sophomore Nicole Faima said, “I do maintain a good relationship with my parents because I feel that it’s important. Having a healthy relationship with my parents has made me realize how important and precious they are to me.
“To be honest, I don’t tell my parents everything because I feel that there are some things that are just meant for me.
“However, I talk openly with my parents because it makes me feel comfortable and at ease. I’m not afraid of being judged by of what I do or say; they know who I really am and understand me.
“I think that it’s easier for me to be open with my parents about how I feel and some personal things because they understand and give me some great advice.
“Growing up, they were always there with me throughout my childhood. They helped me get back on my feet when I was having a hard time, made me laugh, smile and always protected me like good parents should,” said Faima.
